Friday, September 12, 2008

No Waves Today...

My son Brandon and Brendan wishing for waves on the North Shore. This picture makes me cry because its so amazing and I wanted to blow it up and hang it in our house. Yesterday my son asked if I could frame one for his room. He's such a love - and this whole change has really hit him hard. Brendan and he were buddies and it took a long time for my son to open up to him and to trust him, that he was going to actually be around. Hawaii was special because me son really bonded more with Brendan. He learned how to boogie board from B and even though he was scared and B wasn't the nicest most patient teacher - he faced his fears and got out there and did it. From that point on, my son didn't want to go in the water if B wasn't there to protect him I guess. I called him B's little shadow. They played video games, card games, and would hang out from time to time. I really don't think B understands that it's hard on my son right now. I got Brandons phone the other day and saw that he was texting B every day. So sweet. It'll take some time for him to adjust....he lost his friend and live-in male. His father is an amazing man who is in the kids lives daily, so B wasn't a father figure - more like a special friend that he really bonded with. And it hurts him. He doesn't understand really. He still asks me if we're spending Christmas together. I try to protect Brandons view of B because he is his friend, and I want it to stay that way....

7 comments:

mrsmommyb said...

shari-

i don't think men really think of these things. i'm sure he knows though. perhaps one day it'll hit him.

*hugz*
sk

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Bonnie said...

Shari

There are alot of us out there checking in on you. Don't even know you--but we do.

Keep your friends close.

Training has seen me thru the good times and bad. It is the only thing that reminded me WHO I AM when things fall apart.

Thor! said...

As a guy who was raised by a single mom (with a sister as well), try not too worry too much, you are doing a great job... Sure its hard for him right now, but believe me, he's going to be ok. And he's going to be a better man when he gets older.

J

DIF - CrossFit Cape Fear said...

Thor's right on... hang tough Shari!

Keith said...

Shari
You're da bomb! Stay strong and keep your head up. Like Bonnie said, we are all checking up on you and wishing you the best.

K

Gardel said...

I see you two made Hot Chicks with Douchebags on 9/21/08. He sure sounds like a douchebag based on how he's treated you.